The Art of Seduction and Hypnosis
Eliciting Values Anchoring Embedded Commands Time Distortion Mirroring Want to know how to be irresistibly magnetic to your partner? Do you have that aura of mystique that some people naturally possess? Do you have what it takes to seduce your partner? Can your orgasms last?
Eliciting Values The point of eliciting values is to find out what the person you desire to seduce wants in and from a partner and then to become that person of her or his dreams by expressing desired values.
It is good to distinguish here between the form and the essence. The "form" relates to the actual physical thing, while the "essence" relates to the feelings. The reason that people desire things is because they believe that those things will give them the desired feelings. So, if the person you're trying to seduce begins to enumerate what she wants in terms of tangible things you have no way of providing, it's up to you to discover what does she really want, what does she believe that those things will ultimately give you, what is it that she desires to experience and also what are her priorities.
Some examples of values are feelings of safety, protection, freedom, excitement, honesty, respect, kindness, love, etc.
These values, being intangible (in NLP such words are called "nominalizations"), mean different things to different people, so you also need to find out how will she know when those values have been met. One of the best ways to find out by asking her to describe to you a time when she has experienced such value (quality).
You : So, what is important to you in a guy? She : Well I like big and strong guys. You : And when you are with a big and strong guy, how does that make you feel? (or, What does that allow you to experience?) H: Well it makes me feel safe and protected.
And now if you're not big and strong, you may want to find out if there was a time when she was with a person who was not big and strong and she still felt safe and protected. You may also move onto other values that are important to her, which are easy for you to fulfill, while at the same time discovering other ways of making her feel safe and protected without the necessity of your being big and strong. Maybe you're not so big and strong, but are highly skilled in martial arts or may suggest you both take martial arts classes.
The essence, the feelings the person is after, are also called "desired states" - states that the person desires to experience, in this case, when around the other person. You can look at them as "doorways" leading to YOUR desired outcome with this person.
Each person has an inner "strategy", consisting of a set of desired states - look upon them as doors - set in a specific sequence, which once you unlock, open the way for you to get your desired hidden treasure.
Opening and passing through few initial doors may land you only in a "good friend" position, so if you want to go further, you have to be able to uncover not only her values, but also her strategy - what has to happen and in what order so you get your reward as fast as possible.
Now, that you've found out what the person you're seducing desires in a partner, become that dream person to the best of your ability, while maintaining your integrity and being true to yourself. There's no point in trying to turn yourself into something that you're not and there's no point in forcing yourself to do something that doesn't make you feel good - there are people out there with very exotic interests which you may or may not share.
Asking questions relating to person's values will also differentiate you from the majority of other suitors because you'll demonstrate a genuine interest to really get to know this person - instead of serving her with outworn pick-up lines. When you ask people questions that get them to probe into their depths and open themselves to you, people begin to feel closer to you as they may have revealed to you bits and pieces about themselves that they may not have even shared with other people before, bits and pieces of their most intimate selves.
What selling and seducing have in common is that all people have desires and it's up to you to uncover what these desires are and to fulfill them.
You can use hypnotic language patterns to fulfill the need the person has by having the person imagine her heartfelt desires fulfilled by you. You may even ask the person to describe times when she has felt these desires fulfilled in some way and anchor them to yourself through voice, gesture, touch, facial expression, etc.
Sample Questions To Elicit Values: - What is really important for you in your life?
- What is really important for you in a relationship?
- What is really important for you in a person you'd like to date?
- What qualities are important for you in people you go out with?
- How do you decide if to go out with someone?
- What makes you feel good about yourself?
- What makes you feel good when you are on a date?
- What would you like to experience with a guy?
- How would you describe an ideal relationships?
- How would you describe an ideal guy you'd like to go out with? (c) Dr. Laura De Giorgio
Anchoring Anchoring is an application of mind conditioning using the principle of Pavlov's reflex. A Pavlov's reflex is a conditioned reflex first explored and introduced by Russian scientist Pavlov.
The core of his experiment was as follows - he rang a bell, gave a dog some food, the dog saw and smelled the food and started salivating. After a few times of repeating the process of ringing a bell, offering food and getting the dog to salivate, he eliminated the offering of food from the process. He just rang the bell and… the dog started salivating. By always ringing a bell while offering food, he had created a conditioned reflex in the test subject, which in this case was causing salivation by simply ringing the bell.
The same conditioned reflex can be created in a person you'd like to influence or seduce. For example, every time you see the person you'd like to seduce, light up with delight, smile, laugh or just feel good, you touch her in a specific place (the shoulder, elbow, wrist) thus planting an anchor (the ringing of the bell while offering food), while saying something "that feels great, doesn't it?", or simply add a vocal expression of delight, such as "wow", to add an auditory anchor.
Let's say you've touched her wrist each time she felt really good. If you now touch that very same spot on her wrist in the same way you touched it previously, you'll trigger those delightful feelings any time you desire it. You'll also associate them with you. You can plant different anchors for different feelings / states all over her body.
If you anchor specific words or phrases, you can use those in phone conversations or email exchanges, when it's not possible to access physical (kinesthetic anchors) you planted on different spots on her body.
For best results, it's important that your anchors be unique - whether you're using words, phrases, touch, gestures or any other form of anchoring - for two reasons: first, so that someone else doesn't trigger them unintentionally, and so that the person doesn't become insensitive to them through overuse.
The most practical use of anchoring is probably being able the keep a person feeling good when she's with you. Evoke positive feelings, and whilst she's experiencing them, anchor those feelings. (c) Dr. Laura De Giorgio
Embedded Commands Mirroring is an NLP technique which you can use to build instant rapport with another person. In NLP, there's a saying that "people like people who are like themselves". Mirroring allows you to synchronize your energy field with the energy field of another person, whether that person is communicating with you and standing near you, or even if the person is sitting or standing on the opposite side of the room.
Being similar or having someone similar in your vicinity creates a feeling of ease, comfort, being understood, feeling safe, etc.
All of us have been doing this unconsciously - now you can learn to harness the power of mirroring consciously.
Perhaps you've noticed how people who are engaged in an interesting conversation seem to assume the same postures, whether sitting or standing up. When sitting, either side by side or on opposites sides of the table, one leans forward and then the other leans forward as well, one leans backward and then the other leans backward as well, they cross their hands in the same manner, tilt their heads similarly, seem to be having similar side-activities (one lifting up hand to fix her hair, another one lifting up hand to scratch his ear; one person lifting up glass to his mouth, another person following with the similar gesture), etc.
One powerful way to get in sync with another person is through matching that person's breathing pattern - simply observe the person's breathing rhythm and breathe in the same rhythm.
You can mirror the person physically by assuming the same posture, doing the same movements with your hands, in all respects using your body in a similar fashion to hers. You can follow the same rhythm of the person's movement, but with another part of your body - for example, if a person were tapping with her fingers on the table, you may tap with your foot under the table. If a person scratches her ear, you may fix your hair.
While you're following what the other person's is doing and getting in sync with that person, you are, what's in NLP language called - pacing that person. After you pace her for a while, either through breathing or through physical movements, you may test for a lead - slowly alter your breathing or initiate a movement and notice whether the person is unconsciously following your lead. If not, go back to pacing - otherwise you can lead the person where you'd like her to follow you.
(c) Dr. Laura De Giorgio
Time Distortion Time distortion technique enables you to plant the idea in the mind of the person you're seducing that at some point in the future, "say six months from now", she will look back at a present time feeling grateful to have met you now and had all over herself the pleasure of spending time in your company and perhaps fulfilling all of your own wildest dreams!
This projection into the future, will help you to cut down the time it takes for this girl to feel safe and comfortable in your presence. It will also dramatically increase the level of intimacy she feels toward you.
To transport the person into the future, all you need to do is engage the person's imagination.
With that in mind I cannot help but look into the future and see a young woman asking her grandmother for advice in the matters of the heart. You look at your grand daughter with love in your eyes, speaking in a kind voice, recalling moments from your youth when you weren't sure whether your heart was melting for the right man. Then you smile and tell her to trust her heart even if her mind says no, because there was a time when a young man was desperately trying to get your attention but for some reason he could not find his way into your heart. Just before you decided to put an end to his misery he wrote one compelling letter straight from his heart and that's when you knew he was the man who deserved your love. Your mind was still not convinced but you decided to let things happen at least for the sake of finding out for sure. Though it wasn't immediate, your heart and mind surrendered to the power of love. Had I given up at first we wouldn't be here talking about matters of the heart my dear girl, for that young man was none other but your grand daddy.
That one email alone made her not want to miss out on such a perfect future.
(c) Dr. Laura De Giorgio
Mirroring Mirroring is an NLP technique which you can use to build instant rapport with another person. In NLP, there's a saying that "people like people who are like themselves". Mirroring allows you to synchronize your energy field with the energy field of another person, whether that person is communicating with you and standing near you, or even if the person is sitting or standing on the opposite side of the room.
Being similar or having someone similar in your vicinity creates a feeling of ease, comfort, being understood, feeling safe, etc.
All of us have been doing this unconsciously - now you can learn to harness the power of mirroring consciously.
Perhaps you've noticed how people who are engaged in an interesting conversation seem to assume the same postures, whether sitting or standing up. When sitting, either side by side or on opposites sides of the table, one leans forward and then the other leans forward as well, one leans backward and then the other leans backward as well, they cross their hands in the same manner, tilt their heads similarly, seem to be having similar side-activities (one lifting up hand to fix her hair, another one lifting up hand to scratch his ear; one person lifting up glass to his mouth, another person following with the similar gesture), etc.
One powerful way to get in sync with another person is through matching that person's breathing pattern - simply observe the person's breathing rhythm and breathe in the same rhythm.
You can mirror the person physically by assuming the same posture, doing the same movements with your hands, in all respects using your body in a similar fashion to hers. You can follow the same rhythm of the person's movement, but with another part of your body - for example, if a person were tapping with her fingers on the table, you may tap with your foot under the table. If a person scratches her ear, you may fix your hair.
While you're following what the other person's is doing and getting in sync with that person, you are, what's in NLP language called - pacing that person. After you pace her for a while, either through breathing or through physical movements, you may test for a lead - slowly alter your breathing or initiate a movement and notice whether the person is unconsciously following your lead. If not, go back to pacing - otherwise you can lead the person where you'd like her to follow you. (c) Dr. Laura De Giorgio
Want to know how to be irresistibly magnetic to your partner? Do you have that aura of mystique that some people naturally possess? Do you have what it takes to seduce your partner? Can your orgasms last?
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