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Save My Marriage Today -- Amy Waterman

Save My Marriage Today -- By Amy Waterman

Brief Description of Book

The books starts off by describing the various stages experienced in a marriage. This is so that you can identify your crisis as being part of a season of marriage as opposed to being the end of the road. Then it talks about the types of unhealthy expectations that couples bring into the marriages that typically wrecks their marriages.

The rest of the book covers in great detail about communication strategies, money issues, workplace issues, affairs, children, addiction, mid life crisis and even reaching a plateau in a relationship. At least a chapter with detailed explanation with step-by-step practical tools, is dedicated to each of these issues

There is a second part to this book. This part deals directly with handling the marriage crisis as through it is an emergency rescue operation. It gives you exercises to stay positive in a crisis situation. Then it handholds you all the way by teaching you how to put your problems into perspective, how to identify key issues, how to resolve conflicts especially when there is an impasse and what to do if either one of you is having an affair.

There is a third part to this book which comes in the form of a mini-course. The course covers the risk factors involved in divorce, the causes of loss of love and intimacy, how to spot an affair and how to prevent it before it occurs, good communication strategies, what commitment really means in a marriage and finally how to keep from growing apart. This part of the book is extremely well written. In fact, I recommend that you start with the mini-course first. It contains information that helps you see the big-picture and thus stay motivated in the course of saving your marriage.

What I like about this book

- It actually has tools specifically designed for you to practice alone. These are clearly labelled under the heading "Do Yourself". If your partner is on board, then you can practice the "Do Together tools", however the "Do yourself" tools are effective in themselves. In fact each topic has both types of exercises.

- Highly detailed and methodical in explaining the issues. The author seems to have a knack for expressing complicated marriage issues in a simple, elegant manner. You will be able to identify your own key issues in the course of reading the book. I must admit that I have yet to read a book that covers marriage issues as comprehensively and in such detail as this book.

- Many issues are presented in the form of letters written to the authors, so you can be rest assured that they are giving advice for real life marriage problems. Furthermore, nearly all the letters are about complex and yet, highly relatable issues. As I read through each letter, I could identify with the problems that I used to face in my own previous marriage. In fact there are so many letters, that I guarantee that your will find your own problems in them.

- There are 3 additional bonus ebooks that you can use to improve yourself and help you achieve self-actualization. So the save my marriage today ebook course has pretty much left no stone unturned.

- Takes into consideration your state of mind in a marriage crisis situation and offers you practical tools to proceed from there, and handholds you throughout the whole process, instead of jumping straight into the issues like a textbook.

What needs improvement

- I do not think that the authors do any justice to "The Love Bank" concept. I first came across this idea from Dr Williard Harley's His needs, Her needs book. He explains it far better. I recommend that you get yourself familiarized with this concept from his work, because it is important. This is the only part where I felt that their explanations fell short of expectations.

- On top of the advice seeking letters, the authors could have involved more case studies from their counseling experience, to illustrate their points.

Writing Style

Looks and reads like a published book. Polished English. Minimal white spaces.  Smooth flow from one idea to another. Easy to read.

How well does this book meet the objectives

The books provides distinct exercises for couples to do together. If you work through them, perhaps not all, you will not only be able to save your marriage but also rebuild the foundation for a more solid relationship than the one you previously had. In the end, the book unexpectedly convinced me that a marriage crisis is indeed a blessing in disguise, because it offers a platform to build an even healthier relationships.

- For Women saving marriage alone

There are distinct exercises for you to do alone. When you do them, you cannot help but positively influence your spouse's behavior. Those exercises address you as though you are seeking counseling alone. So if you said, "My spouse criticizes me all the time", it will help you work through that issue, without imposing any changes on your spouse.

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