Overcoming Unresourceful Parental Patterns in Relationships

As you read through the beautiful piece of quote above, you probably reflected on your own childhood. It is well known in the field of psychology that the way a person is treated as a child affects them in their adulthood. Of particular significance is what is known as the Imprint Period, which occurs from the ages of 0 to 7. The most crucial period being from age 2 to 4 when major imprinting occurs. During this period, a child absorbs information without any analysis. So if during this period, the child is told they are "bad", they may take this literally without putting it into context. Thus they may think they are a bad person, without taking into account that what was really meant was that their behavior had been deemed bad by a person. Often in a relationship, we tend to react based on events in our childhood on an unconscious level. We may not even see a direct correlation between the way we behave and the original event that causes us to behave in that way, unless, of course, we have the opportunity to investigate it under hypnosis. For instance, I had a client who held a belief that she was not good enough. This naturally affected all areas of her life, including her relationships. Even though she believed herself to be "not good enough", she felt at a loss on how to change it. Under hypnosis, she found out that belief was formed whilst she was in her mother's womb. You see, her mother very much wanted a boy and was thus disappointed with conceiving her. She never knew about this before the session. She recounts in her teenage years, feeling humiliated upon reaching puberty and feeling not good enough to be a woman, but she could not rationally understand why. She then went back to verify this newfound knowledge with her mother. Her mother confessed that she really did want a boy instead of her, but was apologetic about it. My client was then guided to forgive her mother during the hypnosis session. The last I heard from her, she said that her relationship with her mother had never been better. She happily added that she had better self-esteem in her relationship.So the objective of finding out about root causes is so that you can CLEAR emotional baggages. This is not about blame. Neither is it about self pity, which is a complete waste of time. Forgiveness is an essential, if not the most important part of clearing your past. We all were endowed with parents who served our best possible learning needs in this life, for the purpose of our own soul growth. When your baggage is cleared, a brighter future opens up for you. You will also not repeat the same unresourceful parental patterns on your own children. Whilst it is true that our childhood plays a major role in shaping our personalities, it does not have to shape our destiny. PARALLEL WORLD - An Alternative to speaking "Woundology"One effective use of hypnosis is to re-program your past so that (a) you learn from it and move on; and (b) you can have better resources for the present moment and your future. The parallel world hypnosis does this for you. You meet the person you would be if you were raised by the best parents, in the best schools, with the people who were supportive and inspiring. All your qualities and talents are allowed to be fully realized on this alternate world. It is a more empowering alternative compared to being stuck in the past and speaking in "Woundology".