Passion, Adventure, Romance, Pirates and Your Love RelationshipWe just found out that the movie "Pirates of the Caribbean: At World's End" broke the record for the highest worldwide six-day opening, with $401 million. As fascinated observers of our culture, we couldn't help but wonder why? Don't get us wrong... we really enjoyed the movie but we wondered what it is that attracts millions of people to choose to pay their money and spend their time watching a movie like this. Because we're also students of relationships and are always on the lookout for insights into how to create outstanding relationships, we couldn't help but wonder if wasn't something we could learn about creating successful, happy relationships. Setting aside the vast media hype that's gone on to promote this movie, we came to the conclusion that the creators of "Pirates of the Caribbean" give us what a lot of us find lacking from our relationships and lives. While we certainly don't want to spoil the plot for you if you haven't seen the film, we do want to give you a few take-away ideas to think about and possibly apply to make your relationships more alive. Here are some of our thoughts... 1. The clever script had humor and wit. Most of us enjoy humor and want more of it in our lives and in our relationships. So the question becomes...How can you look at situations in a more humorous, lighter, more loving way? How can you expand to include more humor or fun in your life? 2. The plot was filled with surprising and unexpected twists and turns. How can you create surprises that will bring you closer to the people you love? It might be planning a special night of romance or it might be doing something very small-- something out of the ordinary for your loved one. 3. There was passion at every step of the way--romantic passion, passion for the sea, following a good captain, passion to right a wrong, to complete a debt. What do you have a passion for in your life? How can you rekindle that passion if it has dimmed or even died? What step are you willing to take to create more passion in your life? 4. The characters passionately stood up for what they believed in and "stepped up" for what they wanted. What are you committed to having in your relationships and are you willing to "step up" and do the things that will bring you closer to having it? It sometimes just takes a small action to move you toward what you want, like making a connection with your eyes with your beloved or with a family member or friend. It sometimes takes a very small action to stir up passion in your life. If you haven't seen the new "Pirates" movie, go see it because it's a lot of fun. If you're like most people, you want to feel a little more passion and excitement in your life and watching this movie lets you have it vicariously by spending a couple of hours in the theater. Our suggestion is to not just live vicariously through the characters and events of a movie (or anything else) but to really live with passion in all aspects of your life, especially your relationships. When it comes to your relationships, we believe that if you want more than you currently have right now, you can have it. You can create more passion, love, connection, trust, intimacy and spark in your relationships. It all begins with you and it all begins right now. *********************************************** Susie and Otto Collins are married, life partners who are Relationship and Life Success Coaches, and authors of several books on relationships, including "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" "No More Jealousy" "Creating Relationship Trust" and "Communication Magic". In addition to having a great relationship, they regularly write, speak and conduct seminars on love, relationships and personal growth. |