Recognizing you have a marriage problem is the first step along the road to transforming your marriage, and for most couples simply acknowledging there is a problem shatters .....
It's been our experience that change happens in two ways: 1. Yes, it can take a long time to happen or 2. You can do things to create what we call "Instant Breakthroughs." You can create these "instant breakthroughs" in ........
To keep romance alive and nurture the intimacy in your marriage, you’ll want to know a number of ways to express your feelings to your spouse. There are certainly times when you’ll want to put a significant ......
Is creating a healthy, happy relationship with the love of your life a dream for you? Not at all, if you would learn some fundamental principles to keeping and
The formula for marital harmony and success is not a mysterious secret. It’s actually very straightforward. The “behind the scenes” part is the constant work that’s required to keep the channels of love ......
As the story goes, a Cherokee elder was sitting with his grandchildren. He told them, “In every life there is a terrible fight—a fight between two wolves. One is evil: he is fear, anger, envy, greed, arrogance, .....
Are you in a relationship rut? This is your chance to renew the romance in your life, but it's up to you! Love is like a precious flower that grows best in a garden where the soil ......
There is one sure fire medicine which cures all pain and difficulty and opens the way for your greater good. It allows you to sleep well at night, wake up refreshed and filled with enthusiasm for your daily tasks. When you take this medicine obstacles evaporate and wonderful meetings with others ......
Finding happiness is not always easy. It is something that we have to do for ourselves in order to have the life that we want and need.The road to happiness in a relationship is also something that we have to peruse so ......
I was watching an episode of the Home and Garden show “NEAT”, which is a show where a crew comes in to help clutterbugs reorganize and systematize their homes. There is major change going on for the homeowners, including .....
Recently, we attended a seminar in Chicago on creating more of what you want for your life and met a truly inspiring couple from the UK. They were high school sweethearts and have been married for 50 years. Since they ......
During one of the recent storms in our area, a small tree fell on our property and created quite a mess. As we were cutting the tree into pieces small enough to carry, Otto ......
One of the best solutions to relationship break up is preventing it before it happens. Easier said than done, right? Why do relationships take a turn for ......
Quick, what is the most common attitude a spouse can have that leads a marriage down the path to breakup? If you said taking the partner for granted, you’d be right. Is this an issue in your marriage? It is human nature ......
When a spouse feels that he or she always has to be right, you can bet that there’s trouble ahead for the marriage. It doesn’t take a fortune teller with a crystal ball to predict the future when a spouse is determined to win every argument ......
Many people have grown up with misconceptions of what it takes to make a marriage work. The following five incorrect beliefs can damage your marriage. Myth 1: Your spouse should automatically know what you need and want......
If you’re like most people, you probably entered into marriage with a number of unchallenged assumptions in place. These assumptions may have been about what marriage is and entails, about love, ......
Have you ever wondered why your marriage isn’t happier? If so, you’re not alone. Numerous spouses are struggling with the same question. At least part of the answer may lie in the words ......
Imagine the following scenario. Your spouse has given you an important letter to mail and is counting on you to mail it on your way to work. But you slip up...you forget all about it until you're on the way home. "Oh, #$@!!" .....
No matter what is happening in the world around us, it is never necessary to become stuck in depression, fear or other negativity. We are not the victims of the world we see, but ......
Many men and women know the definition of insanity (doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result) and in spite of this knowledge, they continue to date or marry ......
Today, I want to draw a distinction. It is a simple one, but one that is crucial for the success of marriage. Here it is: Someone can love you, and not meet your needs. You can love someone and not meet their needs......
Which of the following sayings have you heard before? “What you sow, you reap.” “What comes around goes around.” “What you give, you get back.” “Like attracts like.” These sayings ......
A large part of my practice is made up of people interested in relationship advice. Not really by design (I started out working with teenagers), it just sort of worked out that way. Most often when someone
While you undoubtedly learned many useful things in school, how to create a happy marital relationship probably wasn’t included. Most spouses learn about marriage through the proverbial “School of Hard Knocks.” As a student, ......
Not many people know about the hidden power struggles that can occur in a relationship or marriage. This article is about a hidden power struggle known as rhythms. Every person has their own unique rhythm whether that is how they eat, sleep, work, relax, or even think and breathe......
Have you ever wondered why you are in a relationship with someone who is so different from you? Most people when they get into relationships have an unspoken and even unconscious agenda .....
If you are in a relationship right now, or are thinking of going into one, there are 3 very important tips you should know and questions you should ask yourself before you ever get yourself into a relationship. This could save you from a lot of ......
In his book, "Using Your Brain-for a Change," Richard Bandler, One of the founders of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, gives a great metaphor for what happens frequently in our lives and relationships. Bandler uses the question of "Who's driving the bus?" to suggest ......
What's your perception of life with your perfect soulmate? Joy, bliss, happiness--a life with no conflict and no major issues to work through? Ward and June or Ozzy and Harriet with passion? In our opinion, that just isn't the way it works .....
Have you always wondered why do kids resist their parents even though they have their interests at heart? This happens to me when I am young. I find that I am attracted towards my friends and buddies in schools than towards my mentors, teachers or even my parents......
Does true love really exist? You know, the kismet kind. The kind that envelopes two spirits before they've even met; the kind Shakespeare must have been writing about in Romeo and Juliet; the kind that makes you ......
Is your spouse a negative person? Does he or she consistently zero in on what’s wrong with you and the marriage while overlooking the many positives? If so, ......
Jealousy has often been called the “green-eyed monster,” and with good reason. The “monster” is fueled by envy and can over time devour the trust and harmony in a relationship. According to B.C. Forbes, “Jealousy...is a mental cancer.” It spreads quickly .....
Many spouses carry heavy suitcases filled with a collection of anger and resentment from their marriage. Periodically, they unpack these suitcases and review every situation in which they feel ......
Did you read about this guy who had been drinking, decided to climb a fence and jumped into the Niagara river, heading over the falls? According to the news, he became the only person known to have survived a plunge over the falls without a safety device......
Does the following scenario sound familiar? Your spouse asks you if you’d mind staying with the kids while he plays golf with a friend on Saturday. You had been looking forward to having several hours to go .....
Kayla’s husband Jon is an expert at getting out of things he doesn’t want to do. He “forgets” to stop by the store on the way home from work when he doesn’t want to be bothered. If he doesn’t want to help Kayla with the house cleaning, he does such a poor job that she ends up redoing his part......
How to get from I to we? How to dissolve the invisible wall of loneliness, separation and misunderstanding most of us surround ourselves with and become available to the relationships we crave so much?.....
In order to dissolve the invisible wall of loneliness that surrounds us, and keeps us separate even from those we care for the most, there are three vital steps we must learn how to practice. The first step we dealt with in .....
In Love by Design relationships it is important that there is reassurance, certainty and security. The other day, actually the other week, I had several people in my office who were not very secure ......
There was once when someone wrote me and told me how hopeless and disappointed he felt when his girl-friend didn't take the initiative to invite him over to her hometown for her birthday celebration.
We don't know if birds do it or if bees do it but we do know that most of the people we've come in contact with do it. What we're talking about is the mantra of the modern era--"If only...." "If only" is what most of us .....
At our workshop this week, the women in the group all agreed that they grew up with the expectation that they would be "nice" and make everyone in the family feel good. They were not taught t......
Are there any "holes" in your relationship? If you're like us--the answer is yes. In fact, in many relationships there are usually quite a few "holes." "Holes" are those things in your relationships and life that you may know are there but it's always a surprise when you fall into one......
Remember, in my last two Newsletters I talked about how "polarized couples" (one wants to 'talk it through' and the other hopes it 'goes away') find their marriage grinding to a halt when .....
... how men or perhaps the woman in a polarized relationship resist or drag their feet when it comes to intentionally mending a broken marriage? One person internalizes ......
In our family, we call them "meltdowns." We don't know what you call them, but we're sure you've had some experience with them. "Meltdowns" are when one or more family members just plain "lose it" and get out of control. ......
It’s important for you to take care of yourself before you try to fix your relationship. The old saying ‘You can’t give away what you don’t have” applies here. Until you are peaceful and happy, ......
If you want to create more passion in your life or reclaim passion that is currently not there in your life, this article will give you some ideas. At some point in our lives we've all experienced total passion for life ......
A woman we'll call "Jane" thought she was a great "catch" and a "perfect partner" but she wondered why her relationships always seemed to fail. Here's what she wrote to us--"I dated men of various ages and cultures but all my relationships ended up in disaster. I constantly searched, hoping for love to come my way. Then I started .....
One of the biggest issues that people ask us about and we experience ourselves is how to find the time for our families, our jobs, our community and our partner. How can we do it all? ......
This week we joined the 20-something masses and attended a Dave Mathews Band concert. They played a song called, "Ants Marching" and we felt like the lyrics really told the story of a lot .....
This week we joined the 20-something masses and attended a Dave Mathews Band concert. They played a song called, "Ants Marching" and we felt like the lyrics really told the story of a lot of relationships .....
During this past week while on vacation in Mexico, we read Conscious Living by Gay Hendricks. When we run across an important book, we will often read it together--taking turns reading aloud--.....
Few people realize the power of experiential exercises. Fewer still know how to make full use of them. But those who do are able to unlock the reservoirs of positive energy present in their body. They feel healthier .....
1. Each of you make a list of the three best things you can say about each other. You are very kind. Your voice is beautiful and inspiring. You give so much love to me and others. Then take turns saying ......
How often do you find yourself wondering, "I hope they are happy with me" or "I hope I'm pleasing them" or similar thoughts? I can't begin to tell you how bad I was with those thoughts! I would do almost anything .....
The Law of Attraction is one of the most powerful laws in the universe. According to it like attracts like. That is why creatures of the same kind attract each other. Wherever there is one ant, you will find .....
If you are still single and yearning for that someone special to come into your life, to share your life, and to share all the laughter and joy of being together, there is something you could do to attract your true love like a magnet!.....