s Your Ex Really Worth Getting Back ? Are You Going Back Too Your Ex For All The Wrong Reasons?Why? Because the truth is, too many spurned lovers try and rush back into their relationship after getting dumped and then find themselves in a similar situation a short time later. Now if you've been dumped or even worse, dumped twice or more and find yourself wanting to go back, then you've really got to take some time out and look at your situation from a realist's view. Our question to you is why do you want to win your ex back? Think about it, apart from something you did that was pretty low, then look deep within yourself and see if you can locate that feeling called self pride. T W Jackson covers this in The Magic Of Making Up and while the book is essentially a guide to help you win back your ex, it would have been incomplete without looking at an issue most spurned people never consider...do they really want to go back to their ex? Positives And Negatives T W Jackson recommends looking at the positives and negatives of your relationship whether you've been spurned once, twice or how many times. If it's the latter, then it may be time to head for the interchange bench! Take time out and make a list of positives and negatives about your relationship and also your ex. Be very honest here and don't make excuses. This is moment of truth time and the more genuine you are with your answers, the better you will be able to assess whether this relationship has a future. But this can only be accomplished successfully if you go "ex free" for at least a month. Sure the initial compulsion is going to be you wanting to know what they're doing, where they are and if they regret their decision. The truth is, spurned once and there's always a strong chance you can get back together. Spurned twice then there are definite issues with the relationship but not "unfixable." Spurned three times or more and you should really be getting the message that there are other opportunities available and maybe you and your ex are not a good fit after all. By listing the positives and negatives about your relationship will give you a good overview of how balanced your relationship is. But you need to be truthful. Don't hold back on the negatives about your ex. You know, it's amazing what an effect this can have on a person's attitude when they actually see something written in "black and white." The Magic Of Making Up is littered with take away information and yes, it's a "how to get your ex back" guide but what gives it plenty of validity, is it's attention to the reader's best interests. That is, someone on the receiving end of one or more dumpings from the same person needs to look deeper at themselves, their ex and their relationship. |